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Monday 3 August 2015

Role of grandparents


The birth of a grandchild is a happier occasion for the grandparents than, when they had their own children. Even parents cannot decipher the pleasure and succour of the grandparents when they first see the grand child. They are on seventh Heaven. The grandparents can teach them many good things. A child who is allowed to be disrespectful to his  grandparents will never know what is pure love.  I spoke to a lady recently, who was not at all on good terms with her mother-in-law. Before leaving for office, she would advice her three year old daughter,to keep an eye on Dadi. In such cases law of natural justice gives them the same treatment which they give to their own parents
"The best babysitters, of course, are the baby's grandparents. You can feel completely comfortable entrusting your baby to them for long periods. The child’s natural instinct is to be with grandma instead of the maid. If the grandparents are staying with their children, they are their natural teachers. They tell the children stories from ancient history, culture and mythology. The child thus has a wider perspective of living. More over the children get  healthy and wholesome food.The influence of the grandparents is, that  the children learn to be tolerant. Under the influence of modern cuyu the children pick up colloquial language, which is full of slangs. Learning to speak  softly and modestly, they acquire good manners.
If the grand parents are staying in a separate house, it is the duty of the parents that they must allow their children to spend time in their company during their vacations. Not only the children, but also the grandparents have a good time with their grand children.
 When the mother is expecting the second child, the responsibility of the grand parents  increases.The child can sleep with grand parents,who can tell them stories from scriptures, and  culture in simple words, which the child can follow.The children will gain self confidence. The grandparents inculcate good habits in a child. Since they have all the time in the world they teach them good manners, humility, give and take, table manners, how to behave with outsiders. 
In some families, a new trend is seen. The mother in law tells the daughter in law  that  she cannot look after the baby. they can make their own arrangement to look after the new born. It is unfair on the part of  the mother in law.  There are many  couples who decide to remain childless.
 Many schools  these days have realised the importace of grand parents. They  celebrate ;grand parents' day' to inculcate a sense of  mutual respect  and love in the children and their  grand parents. Here is a video of a school, celebrating Grandparents Day.
                               
The three ‘Rs’ today have a different meaning. They aim to empower the children to be Righteous, Responsible and Reverent.


 video courtesy you tube

8 comments:

  1. So true about grandparents and their wisdom, and the wonderful bedtime stories :)
    Grandparents Day is a great idea! More schools should take it up.

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    1. Thank you Shreesh/ I am glad that you liked the post.

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  2. I agree, grandparents are the best. In today's world, I feel they play a very important role in bringing up kids and inculcating good habits :)

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    1. Thanks Raj.These days grand parents are generally educated.

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  3. Agree with you completely! Children do need the love and wisdom of grand parents. Their love and support is unconditional.

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    1. Yes Shilpa, the grand parents dote on their grand children.

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  4. So true, as a child, my Mom used to send me to Grandma's place when my summer vacations started. It was pure bliss for she used to tell me stories from the Ramayana or Mahabharata. She used to give me such pearls of wisdom that I still follow. Your post made me think of her. I miss her, Usha Mam..

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    1. I felt l so good when I knew that you were brought up by your grand parents.

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